You Went Out With Him. You Like Him. What to Do Next…

It’s a great feeling. You met a guy, you like the guy. You want him to like you, too. Will he call, or won’t he? Maybe you should nudge things along by texting… or calling…or emailing.

No!

Do not do it. (Promise me you won’t do it.) Listen, I am all for equal rights, equal pay, equal everything between men and women, but when it comes to dating, I say:

Sit back and let him come to you.

Why?

Because this is how you gauge a man’s interest. This is how you break the pattern of doing all the work in getting a relationship off the ground. (Stop working so hard! Stop thinking so much! Give yourself a break already!)

Look yourself in the eye. Repeat after me (slowly). “I’m worth it. I’m worth it. I’m worth it.” Because you absolutely are.

Bonus: When you don’t work so hard, men perceive you as a bigger catch. Take a deep breath. Sit back. See what happens next. If he gets in touch, great. If he doesn’t, move on.

He’s not the only pebble on the beach. So, get out of the house, smile, and make yourself available for a more suitable pebble. (For more reasons why you shouldn’t pursue a guy, go here . For a program on meeting more men than you thought possible, go here.)

Are You Aware of the “Hidden Man Market”? Tips For Meeting Your Right Guy Now

If you’re only using online sites to meet men, you could be overlooking the hidden man market. (By the way, there’s nothing wrong with using Internet sites, but why limit yourself?)

One of the problems of using sites is that it encourages a “dating mindset.” In other words, instead of being prepared to meet a great man anywhere (supermarket, bank, work, sporting event, etc.), you may not be your attractive best until you’re across a table (or on the phone) with someone you met online.

Here’s an interesting fact:

Men are everywhere.

According to Dating Coach Ronnie Ann Ryan:

“Men represent nearly 50% of the adult population, which is 40 million people over 40. So there are 20 million men over 40 in the USA alone.”

Yes, of course some of them are married. But they are all not married. They are all not losers. They are all not in jail. That means, there’s a quarry of good, available men out there, and all you have to do is meet the one who’s right for you.

But, according to Ronnie, most of her new clients haven’t had much  luck. They ask her the same questions:

-Where are the good men?

-I always see the same men at singles events

-I never meet anyone interesting

-It’s way too hard

-They all want younger women

-I don’t notice any decent men!

So, if you have similar concerns, clearly you’re not alone.

Ronnie has been there herself, by the way. She did meet the right one, married him, and designed a program which has helped other women duplicate her success. Check it out at Operation Find Him Now.

HERE’S SOME MAN-MEETING ADVICE FROM RONNIE:

“Get out of the house and go where the men are. Go to the polo match, the local triple A baseball games, the big golf tournaments when famous players come to town or the charity games for fund-raising. Check out the car and boat shows. Hang out at the driving range. Go to local league softball games. Fly a kite at the beach. Go to an outdoor concert or a bar and listen to music. (Yes I said a bar! Not all people who go to bars are drunks – I often go and have only one drink or a cup of tea!) You’ve got to leave your house to meet men.

And you can’t do this in a gaggle of geese. Bring only one friend with you and if you are smart, once in a while you’ll go alone. That way, you make it so much easier for a man to approach you.

ALSO…

Take a simple social risk. Smile. Be friendly. If you can smile, you can meet men. It’s that easy if you just permit yourself he opportunity to connect and interact with men. This is something I absolutely cannot do for you. You are the only who can turn on the charm with a basic smile.

Now,  keep in mind that if I were to share every technique in the book, you’d just get overwhelmed with how to meet men rather than actually meeting them. This happened recently to one of my clients who has purchased so much literature on meeting men that she is totally overwhelmed and immobilized. so much junk runs through her head that she can’t even be herself any more.

HERE IS THE BIGGEST SECRET OF THEM ALL:

Most dating coaches won’t tell you this because there’s no money in this advice – THERE’S NO TECHNIQUE REQUIRED IF YOU ARE WILLING TO SIMPLY BE FRIENDLY.”

If you’re waiting until Friday or Saturday night to be kind and friendly, you drastically decrease your chances of meeting the right man. Smile at that man in the bank, will you? What’s the worst that could happen? He won’t smile back? NEXT!

For more tips from Ronnie, take a look at her Operation Find Him Now plan. She has 3 spots left, and it’s due to kick off this coming Monday, May 21st. She’ll have you meeting men from the very first session.

In the meantime, smile.  Have a brilliant weekend.

How to Find Love When You’re Not Very Good Looking

Hello Terry,

I feel that this society is too pressured on appearance and looking good to impress others that we forget the key to a person is actually their character, personality and conversation. Do you feel this way?

I have been criticized before about my looks, and it created horrible memories in my life. Because of this I created a website for people to meet others, but all profile photos do not show the user’s appearance or body. Photos are only exchanged after 30 messages between the two users.

I believe we should use the power of the internet to bring back our focus on character and personality, instead of every meeting people/dating site being flooded with profile photos of user’s taking photos of themselves in their bedroom or washroom just to attract others.

If you believe this is a good cause and would like to support my website and me, I would really appreciate it if you can like my facebook page about the website I created and also review my website and write about it in your blog.

Facebook page: http://www.facebook.com/pages/BlindDatingOnlinecom/202700333142935

Website: http://BlindDatingOnline.com

Please also share my Facebook page with your friends so more people can know about the website. Together we can increase the confidence of others by being less judgmental about appearance in this society. Your ‘Like’ on this page might be able to help someone close to you. It can bring more happiness back into people’s lives instead of them worrying about pleasing others by their appearance.

Thank you for giving me your time today. I really appreciate your time in reading this and your support for my website.
Have a great day =)

Regards,
Rachel

Hi, Rachel-

I definitely agree that society places way too much emphasis on looks.

I would much rather be with a less physically attractive man who makes me laugh than a gorgeous, self-involved statue any day of the week. This is not to say that good-looking people can’t be selfless and funny; they can and are. But the current obsession with tanning, waxing, and surgical facial rearrangement strikes me as a big waste of time.

I checked out your dating site, and it looks like a good thing, so I’m glad to post the link here. I hope it sees a lot of activity and ultimately leads to many happy unions.

A reminder to anyone who thinks s/he is not attractive enough for love: The most important thing any “less” attractive person can do to become more attractive is to believe that s/he’s attractive. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve come across an extremely charismatic and lovable person who doesn’t remotely fit the media’s idea of beautiful (or even average looking) but has an adoring and grateful partner.  Such people possess a quality that is ultimately more enduring (and more attractive!) than beauty: It’s confidence.

Confident people emit an energy that other people want to be around. It doesn’t matter if they’re fat, or short and fat, or bald, or have small eyes and a beaky nose. People who feel good about themselves encourage others to feel good about them, too.

And I definitely believe what The Beatles told us: “The love you take is equal to the love you make.” So, vow to brighten somebody’s day every day, even if it’s a stranger, and even if it’s just with your smile. Love attracts love from all angles. When you’re loving, you make it easier for others to fall in love with you.

You become one of those people of whom others say, “If you looked at her she wasn’t pretty at all, but she just had this, this … this quality.”