NOTE: Today’s post comes from dating coach and writer Ronnie Ann Ryan.
You may recognize that name – Candace Bushnell is a famous creator of the Sex and the City TV series. She also writes juicy novels, and I just read one while on vacation last week. Ooooh, it was good!
But when I read Trading Up, I didn’t just enjoy the story line. With my dating coach hat on, I also enjoyed how Bushnell describes women and their interactions with men. She really knows how things work, let me tell you!
In Trading Up, the main character, Janey, is a Victoria’s Secret model, who learned early that her looks gave her power over men. So, when she saw a man noticing her, she didn’t run over to deliver herself on a silver platter.
What did she do instead? She smiled and maintained brief eye contact more than once. But, she stuck with whatever she was doing in the moment and waited for men to come to her. She never made a move because she understood how sound a strategy it is to let men come to her.
You might think, “Honestly Ronnie, I’m not a Victoria’s Secret model, so what has this to do with me?”
The short answer is everything.
There is so much to learn regarding confidence and feminine allure — it works for all women with all men. A confident woman knows how to use her feminine charm and can work a room without working it at all. It’s all about attitude and outlook. It’s all about knowing your value as a woman and what a great catch you are.
And, guess what? It has very little do to with looks.
When you live as if you are a great catch, you attract better quality men. You see opportunities. You notice openings in a conversation. You are approachable and men see that. So they act on it. There is absolutely no desperation. No feeling of a lack of available men. No hopeless or despair because you know men are every where you go. And, they frequently strike up conversations with you.
Put it on your to-do list to start projecting this mindset today. Make the most of your particular feminine charm to attract men. You have it in you. Trust me.
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