Ever hear that old song, “Fooled Around and Fell In Love?”
It’s about a guy who sleeps with a parade of women and falls in love with one of them. It’s been known to happen.
Most of the time, though, it doesn’t happen. Instead, the guy fools around and forgets about it. Then he fools around with someone else.
It may be popular to believe that only men fool around or seek FWB arrangements, but in my experience women are also guilty of taking sexual advantage of a vulnerable guy, only to move on and leave him in the dust.
And FWB arrangements aren’t limited to just sex. I’ve known women who’ve let smitten men to buy them drinks, dinner, and jewelry, encouraging them to think they’ll fall in love with them someday.
I’m not a fan of Friends With Benefits arrangements. People get hurt.
When a guy asks to be FWBs, he’s revealing a serious character flaw. He’s demonstrating the ability to reduce another human being into a toy for his personal pleasure. (In most cases, that would be a sex toy.)
What a repellent quality. When a person suggests you be his FWB, be thankful that you got the opportunity to glimpse his true nature before you got in too deep. Turn around and walk away.
You are not a toy. You are a human being with a beating heart. Do not waste time with slutty men.
So well said. As one person pointed out to me, there is really no such things as FWB. It’s just a convenient term popularized by people trying to get over….in my humble opinion.
I think a FWB relationship can be a good one IF both parties are not interested in a long-term love relationship, either with each other or not at all. In fact, it can help them to not get into a bad relationship just to have physical affection and companionship. It is not something to be considered unless you are both strong enough to understand the possible complications of this type of relationship, and strong enough to be ruthlessly honest with yourselves.
I’ve had a couple of FWB relationships, and they’ve ended well for all parties involved, because we went into it with our eyes wide open – just as you should with any relationship.