How to Find Love When You’re Not Very Good Looking

Hello Terry,

I feel that this society is too pressured on appearance and looking good to impress others that we forget the key to a person is actually their character, personality and conversation. Do you feel this way?

I have been criticized before about my looks, and it created horrible memories in my life. Because of this I created a website for people to meet others, but all profile photos do not show the user’s appearance or body. Photos are only exchanged after 30 messages between the two users.

I believe we should use the power of the internet to bring back our focus on character and personality, instead of every meeting people/dating site being flooded with profile photos of user’s taking photos of themselves in their bedroom or washroom just to attract others.

If you believe this is a good cause and would like to support my website and me, I would really appreciate it if you can like my facebook page about the website I created and also review my website and write about it in your blog.

Facebook page: http://www.facebook.com/pages/BlindDatingOnlinecom/202700333142935

Website: http://BlindDatingOnline.com

Please also share my Facebook page with your friends so more people can know about the website. Together we can increase the confidence of others by being less judgmental about appearance in this society. Your ‘Like’ on this page might be able to help someone close to you. It can bring more happiness back into people’s lives instead of them worrying about pleasing others by their appearance.

Thank you for giving me your time today. I really appreciate your time in reading this and your support for my website.
Have a great day =)

Regards,
Rachel

Hi, Rachel-

I definitely agree that society places way too much emphasis on looks.

I would much rather be with a less physically attractive man who makes me laugh than a gorgeous, self-involved statue any day of the week. This is not to say that good-looking people can’t be selfless and funny; they can and are. But the current obsession with tanning, waxing, and surgical facial rearrangement strikes me as a big waste of time.

I checked out your dating site, and it looks like a good thing, so I’m glad to post the link here. I hope it sees a lot of activity and ultimately leads to many happy unions.

A reminder to anyone who thinks s/he is not attractive enough for love: The most important thing any “less” attractive person can do to become more attractive is to believe that s/he’s attractive. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve come across an extremely charismatic and lovable person who doesn’t remotely fit the media’s idea of beautiful (or even average looking) but has an adoring and grateful partner.  Such people possess a quality that is ultimately more enduring (and more attractive!) than beauty: It’s confidence.

Confident people emit an energy that other people want to be around. It doesn’t matter if they’re fat, or short and fat, or bald, or have small eyes and a beaky nose. People who feel good about themselves encourage others to feel good about them, too.

And I definitely believe what The Beatles told us: “The love you take is equal to the love you make.” So, vow to brighten somebody’s day every day, even if it’s a stranger, and even if it’s just with your smile. Love attracts love from all angles. When you’re loving, you make it easier for others to fall in love with you.

You become one of those people of whom others say, “If you looked at her she wasn’t pretty at all, but she just had this, this … this quality.”

How to Stop Sabotaging Your Love Life

If you’re in the habit of shooting yourself in the foot when it comes to love, I would be remiss if I didn’t mention Ronnie Ann Ryan’s free teleclass scheduled for tonight.

The nice thing about Ronnie: Her teleclasses are meaty. They aren’t glorified sales pitches (although she surely wouldn’t object if you chose to avail yourself of one of her coaching programs). She packs a free 60-minute call with information you can use immediately to transform your love life.

She comes across women who think they’re ready for love but — for some reason — can’t get a relationship off the ground. A lot of times, the problem is self-sabotage, and it’s especially common among women who’ve suffered broken hearts.

If this sounds like you, Ronnie can relate.

She avoided men for many years following a breakup in college that left her in a heap on the floor. She was 40 years old before she even considered getting into a serious relationship again. Despite not having a boyfriend for many years, Ronnie learned to make herself vulnerable (you have to be vulnerable if you want love).

And she devised a plan to meet the right man, as opposed to a man. Then she married him.

So, if you’re frustrated and confused in your quest for true love, I recommend you call in tonight. Get registration info here. (Can’t make it to the phone from 8-9PM/EST? Register anyway, and Ronnie will make the recorded call available to you.)

An hour with Ronnie is a much better investment of your time than watching The Biggest Loser.

Meet 50 Men In 90 Days

If finding Mr. Right is a numbers game, you can tip odds in your favor by meeting as many men as possible. Unfortunately, many women believe that all the “good ones” are married or otherwise taken.

My friend, Ronnie Ann Ryan, is a dating coach who wants to prove those women wrong. In fact, she’s ready to prove them wrong with a group coaching program slated to begin Monday, September 12th. (In case you’re wondering, Ronnie is indeed my friend, a person I like and see regularly, not some stranger who emailed and induced me to promote her stuff.)

She’s the author of the original MANifesting Mr. Right plan, the very one she used to meet and marry her own Mr. Right. (Check her website for her intriguing success story.) Since then, she’s helped countless other women do the same thing.

By all means, if you’re ready and willing to meet 50 new men in 90 days, take a look at her coaching program. Aside from the results you’ll get, you will participate by phone  from the comfort and privacy of your own home. The price is right, too. Take a look here.

The best part? You won’t just meet 50 men, you’ll learn how to talk to them so that they want to talk back to you. You’ll learn how to actually feel comfortable doing this.

I think you’ll like Ronnie as much as I do; she’s an honest, committed woman who walks her walk and has made helping other women find the right love her life’s work.

To get started meeting men, click here.

What to Do When You’re Rejected

There are two sides to being rejected:

1) The paralyzing side that makes you believe you don’t have what it takes to find true love — and stops you in your tracks.

2) The motivating side that makes you realize a wrong guy has been eliminated, saving you time and trouble. Now, you’re available for the right guy to come along. (I can’t count how many times I rolled myself up into a ball over some man who dumped me, only to run into him 5 years later and wonder what the heck I ever saw in him.)

When you’re rejected, your best bet is to acknowledge the hurt (and rejection hurts, I don’t care who you are). Then brush yourself off and say, “Next.”

Why?

Because the most successful people are rejected people. (Author J.K. Rowling met rejection 12 times before a publisher decided to take a chance on Harry Potter. Forbes now lists her as a billionaire.)

Failures in love and life are the ones who stopped taking chances. They stopped believing in themselves.

If you don’t know what you have to offer, think about it. Make a list of your best qualities. Jot down every compliment you can remember being given.

Then straighten your shoulders, put that sparkle back in your eye, and smile. Some man will be very lucky to have you.

Be the star you are.