Do you go for George Clooney?
A lot of my friends do, but I don’t (and they think I’m crazy).
Yeah, he’s good-looking. He also looks sweet in a suit, but as of this writing, he’s 50 years old and still bouncing from woman to woman. (Right now, he’s with former Dancing With the Stars contestant Stacey Keibler on the heels of a liaison with another DWTS contestant, Elisabetta Canalis).
There’s nothing wrong with this, really. It’s a free country, and George and the rest of us can date whom we want. But problems emerge when women get stuck on George Clooney types in their own hometowns, instead of going for men who can actually make them happy.
(If a guy looks good but has a track record of leaving women in the dust, he probably will make you seriously unhappy.)
Also…
As important than a guy’s willingness to stop playing the field and commit is his possession of a sense of humor. (I’m sure George does have a sense of humor, but he probably doesn’t hang around long enough to let a woman find out.)
If you’ve ever met a new guy — a cute new guy — for coffee and listened to him go on about gas prices, Wall Street layoffs, and traffic tie-ups at the expense of sitting back and having a good laugh, you know what I mean.
I don’t care how good-looking a man is, how much money he makes, what car he drives, if he does not possess a sense of humor, he’s a bad bet.
Look:
Adversity is a part of life. It will always be with us. Say you agree to marry Mr. Hot and Smart and Rich and Humorless, but there’s a hurricane the day of your wedding, forcing your guests to cancel.
How do you get through it if you both can’t see the humor in the situation?
Not well.
Chances are, this kind of situation will not befall you, but life pretty much guarantees to throw you some other rotten circumstance. And that’s fine because adversity strengthens us. It also reveals character.
But you will only rise above it if you have a good sense of humor, and if the man you love has a good sense of humor. If you’re with a guy, and you’re not laughing, ask yourself why. Decide right now if the situation is fixable.
Listen:
We humans generally don’t look great when we wake up in the morning. We don’t look great when we’re sick. Some people’s looks do not improve with age.
So, what really counts, then?
If you can make the one you love laugh, he’s likely to stay in love with you. Same goes if he can make you laugh. (Who cares about a bald spot when you’re having a great time together?)
Go for a guy who can make you laugh.
