Wondering if I might get your advice on this one…how proactive should I be towards a guy who fell off the dating radar and just recently called me, asking if I’d be open to seeing him sometime and requesting I “don’t be a stranger”. My response – “Don’t you either” to which he promised he won’t. Thanks, Terry, your advice is always so spot on.
-Back On His Radar
Hi, Back On-
When you say he fell off the radar, I take it to mean he disappeared. So, if he’s reappeared, it’s his responsibility to make you know he’s serious about seeing you again. You already told him you’re willing to see him. That’s enough.
In this case, my motto would be, “If he wants to go out with me, it’s up to him to make it happen.” If he calls, go out with him, be interested (and your usual charming self), but leave it up to him to make the effort to put you and him in the same room together.
Remember: He fell off your radar; you didn’t fall off his. Let him prove he’s worth your time.
Thanks for the kind words!